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Dating Flop

18 Apr

Hello All!!

It has been awhile since I have written on this blog. I’m still not sure if anyone reads this, but I feel the need to vent.

So I have been on Jdate since April, and I have “met” a few guys.

They seem to all live in Toronto, and with me being in Edmonton it poses a problem.

I knew going into this that I probably wouldn’t find a guy who lived near me and being the old-fashioned romantic I am I was hoping that they would come to me instead of me flying out to Toronto. No luck. They seem to all have the mindset that I should fly there and meet them. Now, don’t get me wrong. I love Toronto. I have hopes of flying out there at the drop of the hat and eventually moving out there. But being “in between” jobs doesn’t help, neither does the fact that I just can’t fund it right now. I also feel it would be super awkward incase we don’t connect. What do you do when your stuck in a city on a 2 day bad date?

There was this one guy who I felt I connected with, but as always I seem to do something and the connection fizzles. I feel like Chuck in Good Luck Chuck. I need someone to break my curse.

I have noticed that since the plans for me going out there aren’t moving forward as fast as these guys like they seem to slowly stop texting or calling as often. I’m sure its the typical “It’s not you, It’s me thing”. Oy. Dating is never easy, nevermind internet dating.

I feel like I’m going to be one those cat women, but with dogs. I’m so ready, despite my age, to meet someone and really connect. I havent been out on a date in 2 years.

I’m also struggling with the emotions of my dad starting to date again. I thought it would be okay, but I feel jealousy and anger. It could be in part that while he is out on dates, im sitting at home being the parent. I just want him to be happy, but I want to be happy too and so far so NOT good.

Any advice?! I’ll take anything!!

Also, I have thought of criteria for my future boyfriend:

  • Family values
  • Treats his mom/sister/any female in his life with respect
  • Independent
  • Kind and caring
  • Has a good sense of humor
  • Has a steady job
  • Likes animals (but not weird ones, my ex had a ferret
  • Wants kids
  • Likes to be active and workout
  • Likes to travel and explore new religions/ cultures
  • Likes music
  • Likes to be social but can stay in for a movie night

I know it’s a long list and it will be hard to find someone who checks each one-off. But Ive dated so many bad eggs that I’m looking a gem!

Thank you for letting me vent, and if there is anyone out there please leave me a comment 🙂

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